Suffering from broken heart disease? After ending a relationship with someone who played a pivotal role in your life for an extended period of time, it’s almost impossible to not enter a state of temporary depression. After a breakup, you not only experience the grief of missing your significant other, but the loss of the future you had envisioned with them as well. In a way, you have to hit the reset button on some of your personal goals and plans. There are many ways to cope with a broken heart, but the first step is to not mask it with temporary fixes such as alcohol, one night stands, and even shopping. Instead, allow yourself to feel what you are feeling. Is it going to be miserable? Absolutely. But there are quite a few benefits of a breakup. It’s important to understand that immediately following a breakup, you will not look at these as benefits. Your mind is clouded with negative emotions, which is completely natural.
A major benefit of breaking up is finding your inner power. After a breakup, you have to challenge yourself. Try things you never thought you would try and do things you never thought you could do. With each victory, you’ll regain your strength and begin to see just how far you’ve come.
Breakups are excellent learning opportunities. Instead of spending your time on the internet looking up break up quotes, taking break up quizzes, and loading your iPod with break up songs, try to remember what you took away from the relationship. Much like life in general, every relationship is full of lessons that not only help define who you are as a human being, but also shows you who you really are. We often times spend so much time trying to figure out the people around us that we forget to look ourselves. As you look back over your the relationship that just ended, don’t be hard on yourself for the things you may have done wrong. Instead, learn from them! Opening up to yourself about where you went wrong will drastically improve your next relationship.
Let the breakup define your future. When your relationship comes to an end, it allows you to see your ex with more objectivity. The blinders come off and you are able to accurately acknowledge their flaws and faults. Breakups are often a great tool to determine what you can and cannot live with. Each breakup helps you discover what you really want in a partner. Make a list of the qualities your next partner must and must not have. Don’t settle for anything less. If more relationships in your future come to an end, you can continue to modify the list. Eventually, you’ll know exactly what you want and need.